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A Muslim Marriage App for
Practising Muslims

Seek a spouse who shares your commitment to the Qur’an and Sunnah.

How Sunnah Match works

  1. Create your Free Profile

    Share your religious practice and what you hope for in marriage.

  2. Find someone compatible

    Explore profiles and send introductions with a paid membership.

  3. Involve the families

    Involve your families and invite your wali to follow conversations on Sunnah Match.

  4. Get married

    Begin your life together, insha’Allah.

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United Kingdom

🇪🇬 Egyptian

, 27

United Kingdom

🇸🇴 Somali

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United Kingdom

🇧🇩 Bangladeshi

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Addis Ababa, Ethiopia

🇪🇹 Ethiopian

Faith family and sincerity matter to me

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United Arab Emirates

🇦🇿 Azerbaijani

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Indonesia

🇮🇩 Indonesian

Find someone on your deen

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F28791

Hovedstaden, Denmark

🇸🇩 Sudanese + 🇪🇷 Eritrean

I Grew up in a practicing Muslim household AlhmdulilAllah , at the moment I am a student, I am quite an ambitious woman and I enjoy traveling, trying new things, socializing and learning new cultures and languages ( I speak several ) I also love my religion and it’s a big part of who I am , I like Islamic history and AlhmdulilAllah I have been working towards memorizing the Quran. I would describe myself as pretty chill,and I enjoy spending time by myself just as much as like hanging out with my friends and family. I am also into reading, politics, modest fashion, skincare and history. I also do alots of physical activity, hiking,long walks , strength training AlhmdulilAllah and would appreciate someoen who does the same! I am also not someone who believes in tough love ! So if you have a family whom you know won’t totally accept me for whatever reason (ethnicity,religion etc) please don’t hit me up, no need to waste time ! I only stay where I am loved and respected I am also not in a rush to get married! As it takes me a lot of time to trust someone. I would want to know the person really well ultimately be engaged for few years before getting married, mostly cus I am young but I also lack experience, since I wasn’t allowed to talk to men growing up until now 💀

, 24

Greater Manchester, United Kingdom

🇧🇩 Bangladeshi

I would describe myself as a bubbly and positive person with a kind and friendly nature. I am naturally social and enjoy connecting with others, particularly those I feel comfortable around, while also valuing meaningful and sincere relationships. Islam is central to who l am, and I strive to implement it in my daily life by following the Qur'an and Sunnah to the best of my ability, with the understanding that personal growth is a lifelong journey. In my free time, I enjoy spending quality time with family and friends, listening to Islamic reminders, exploring new food spots, gym, getting my steps in/walking and watching films/series. While I enjoy going out and socialising, I deeply cherish family time at home and make a conscious effort to prioritise it. I would consider myself to have a sense of humour, as I have been told by others. (I do not have the paid plan so I cannot message anyone first)

, 22

West Midlands, United Kingdom

🇸🇴 Somali

Salam 🍃☀️ I’m happily balancing work and uni, which keeps me busy, but I always make time for the things that ground me—like my family and getting out into nature for a hike. I consider myself grounded and a strong communicator, and I really appreciate those same qualities in a partner. I’m looking for someone who brings their own passions to the table, values kindness, and is ready to build a genuine, supportive connection without the games.

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Île-de-France, France

🇩🇿 Algerian

🌸 I’m a (very) curious person who loves discovering new things and learning about all sorts of subjects, sometimes getting a little too carried away with my curiosity! I enjoy reading, writing, history, taking long walks, going to the gym, and pretty much anything that gives me an excuse to explore somewhere beautiful. 🌸 I’m quite reserved at first and can even be shy. I have a romantic side and a soft spot for cute things, like cats. I love cats. 🌸 I am on a weight loss journey, and if I feel comfortable enough I could even tell you how much I lost already! Despite that, I am quite an active person and hate doing nothing or being a couch potato. I am also healthy alhamdulillah, no health issues. 🌸 Alhamdulillah, I’m working on my deen and always looking to learn more. I’d love a marriage where we grow together, learn from one another and make this dunya a means of attaining Jannah, in sha Allah.

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F25015

Michigan, United States

🇵🇹 Portuguese

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله I embraced Islam by the mercy of Allāh, and my greatest aspiration is to meet Him upon the Qur’an and the Sunnah according to the understanding of the Salaf al-Ṣāliḥ. I identify as a Salafī upon the Atharī creed and follow the Ḥanbalī madhhab, striving to learn and practice my dīn with ikhlās and consistency. I am currently undergoing studies of the Ḥanbalī madhhab and aim to continue seeking beneficial ilm for the rest of my life, by the permission of Allāh. My approach to Islām is one of seriousness and commitment. I believe this dīn deserves to be studied carefully, practiced correctly, and approached with humility while also being cautious of whom we take ilm from. إن هذا العلم دين، فانظروا عمن تأخذون دينكم I am always a student first and ask Allāh to increase us all in beneficial ilm and righteous action. Outside of work, I wear proper niqāb and value modesty, privacy, and preserving Islamic etiquette in both my online and offline presence. I do not display myself on social media, nor wear makeup. I try to avoid unnecessary free-mixing and use social media primarily as a means of benefiting others and reminding myself. I am very to myself, and don’t have many friends due to being a convert as well as my goals with my studies. Among the contemporary scholars whose works and lessons I benefit from are Shaykh Ṣāliḥ al-Fawzān, Shaykh Muḥammad ibn Ṣāliḥ al-’Uthaymīn, Shaykh Rabī al-Madkhalī, Shaykh Ṣāliḥ al-Sindī, Shaykh Sulaymān al-Ruḥaylī, and Shaykh ʿAbd al-Salām al-Shuway’ir. I also benefit greatly from the works of the scholars of the madhhab and Ahl al-Sunnah, including Shaykh Muḥammad ibn Abd al-Wahhāb, Imām Aḥmad ibn Ḥanbal, Ibn Qudāmah, Ibn Taymiyyah, and Ibn al-Qayyim. Marriage is one of my greatest priorities, and in shā’ Allāh to marry as soon as Allāh decrees what is best. More important than anything else I seek in a spouse is sound Salafī aqīdah, adherence to the Sunnah, good akhlāq, and a shared commitment to seeking ilm and worshipping Allāh upon the haqq.

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F11211

London, United Kingdom

🇹🇳 Tunisian

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم Please kindly don’t send me a request if you haven’t read my profile I’ve put average and plain because I don’t like the idea of self rating, attraction is important, and this can be established before proceeding. I’d prefer someone closer to my culture so North African/arab but I’m open to some other ethnicities. Im not open to brothers over the age of 35, brothers with children or polygyny. Also unable to relocate for the next year (out of London) but I do wish to live in a Muslim country in the future inshaAllah. I speak my dialect of Arabic (darija) and my fus7a could do with serious improvement. I would like someone who speaks Arabic or is learning. I keep active through walking, basketball , swimming , badminton and gym. I would like someone who looks after their health and does some sort of sport/activity. I find it difficult to describe myself or list my traits, so I’ve put the main non negotiables and anything further can be discovered in meetings. I know the profile can come across blunt however I just don’t want to waste time and I believe meetings and meaningful questions are more helpful in establishing compatibility and potential. May Allah grant everyone on here what is khair for them in this life and the next with ease.

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Quebec, Canada

🇩🇿 Algerian + 🇹🇳 Tunisian

I enjoy hiking , football (soccer for americans) I can speak English French and Darja (algerian arabic) fluently Will disclose more later

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Uusimaa, Finland

🇸🇴 Somali

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F28765

London, United Kingdom

🇾🇪 Yemeni

a little about me 🤍 i’m a 23 year old soon 24, born and raised in london. i’m a paediatric nurse working in central london. i love spending time with friends and family. i love traveling and im trying to hit 30 before 30. currently at country 21. i can be a little sarcastic, love a good laugh and will probably make fun of you (with love, of course). so bonus points if you can actually take a joke.

, 24

London, United Kingdom

🇹🇷 Turkish + 🇩🇴 Dominican

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته I am mixed race mediterranean and caribbean, more details can be shared later إن شاء الله Learning arabic, on my hifdhs journey, seeking knowledge (kindly please do not request me if my ethnicity is not accepted by your family, بارك الله فيكم)

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M33141

London, United Kingdom

🇮🇳 Indian

I value staying active, being involved in the community—particularly with youth—in whatever way I can be useful. I enjoy reading, spending time with family and value meaningful connections. I appreciate the outdoors and the beauty of nature, and always looking to plan the next trip —particularly journeys that trace Islamic history and allow for experiencing different cultures.

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Sharjah, United Arab Emirates

🇪🇬 Egyptian

بسم الله الحمد لله و الصلاة و السلام على رسول الله If you are reading this I ask Allah the most Kind, the Lord of the great throne, to be your ally in the dunya and the akhira, to make you blessed wherever you are, to make you from those who when they are given they are thankful, when they are tested they remain patient, and when they commit a sin they repent. Indeed, this is how happiness is achieved. May Allah grant us knowledge to worship Him upon tawheed while following the sunnah and to die while being free from all forms of shirk and innovation in the religion. My passion is seeking knowledge and living islam to my utmost capability b’ithnillah. The prophet salallahu alaihi wasalam said that the scholars are the inheritors of the prophets. So it is well known and understood that the best of all people are those who call to Allah upon knowledge and insight and do righteous deeds. This is why my dream is to live in the prophet’s city, Madina. This is where there is safety and tranquility along with a great concentration of scholars for myself and my family to learn from. As the prophet salallahu alaihi wasalam said “Madina is better for them, if they only knew”. And what a great achievement that would be to have your children grow up to become ulama and call people to the worship of Allah. Surely the parents that put forward those efforts to make that happen will be rewarded immensely for that if they were sincere. Some info about me I was born and raised in Canada but have moved permanently to muslim lands Alhamdulillah. Although not relevant to whether or not someone goes to jannah or naar, it may be worth mentioning that i have lineage to the prophet saw. Scholars mention this is a virtue for the one who is upright and comes with its own rulings (such as not taking sadaqa etc), may Allah guide us to uphold what he commanded. I live in sharjah, UAE which is Alhamdulillah one of the best places on earth today. Sheikh sulayman al ruhayli frequently visits for conferences and when asked where is the best place to live after saudi he said sharjah due to it having mashaiykh that call to Allah upon insight and understanding. If you are interested to make hijrah to the muslim lands, want your kids to become scholars (in shaa Allah), feel free to request or your wali can contact me directly Barak Allahu feekum To name a few - seeking Islamic knowledge - benefiting in my free time (Quran, duroos, etc) - spending time with family - outdoor activities - playing basketball and going to the gym

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M4229

Ar Riyad, Saudi Arabia

🇸🇴 Somali

I'm a simple, easygoing, and family-oriented person who values honesty, respect, and good communication. I enjoy spending time with family and friends, learning new things, and appreciating the simple things in life, such as meaningful conversations and good company. I'm currently studying Sharia in Riyadh and hope to find someone who is understanding, supportive, and shares a desire to grow together in deen and ilm.

, 26

London, United Kingdom

🇮🇶 Iraqi

Assalm wa alaykum wa rahmatallahi wa barakatu, trying to be a righteous muslim to the best of my ability in sha allah. I follow the Quran and Sunnah with the understanding of the salaf. I’m very easy going and always try to see the khair in things even if it doesn’t go as planned. We plan and Allah plans and Allahs plans are truly better. He knows what we don’t. It’s rare you find me angry, alhamdulilah I’ve been trying to follow the statement of the prophet ﷺ where he said a real man is the one who can control his anger. I’m currently memorising Quran with a teacher and attend lessons when I can to seek knowledge at a salafi masjid where they go through books of the salaf. Appearance: I get told I look Moroccan as well as other North African countries, I have long curly hair past my ears and full beard. Play football weekly and train daily Calisthenics at home avoiding mixed gyms

, 34

Luton, United Kingdom

🇵🇰 Pakistani

Born and raised British Pakistani. Someone who enjoys life but is preparing for the hereafter. I do like a good laugh and make sometimes even the most dull times alive with stupid jokes. Once I do get comfortable I will talk endlessly. I don’t swear or curse, especially at home. So it feels weird and uncomfortable hearing it especially excessively. I do have advanced kerataconus fyi. Honestly I don’t know what else to write.

, 26

London, United Kingdom

🇩🇿 Algerian

I’m a confident, ambitious and family-oriented man who knows what he wants from life. My faith is a big part of who I am, and I try to keep Islam at the centre of the decisions I make and the future I’m building. I’m a professional footballer, which has given me the discipline, drive and mindset to work hard for the things I want. I enjoy travelling, staying active, experiencing different cultures and making the most out of life, but ultimately, I’m looking forward to building something much more meaningful — a strong marriage, a peaceful home and a beautiful family, insha’Allah. I’m looking for a woman who is kind, feminine, loyal, affectionate and family-oriented, and who takes her faith seriously. Someone I can genuinely connect with, laugh with, travel with and grow with. I want my wife to feel loved, protected, respected and supported, and I want the same loyalty and effort in return. I’m at a stage in my life where I’m not interested in wasting time or entertaining something without a purpose. I’m here with the intention of finding the right person and building a lifelong partnership.

, 25

London, United Kingdom

🇮🇳 Indian

Gender: Male Age: 24 Height: 6’2” Ethnicity: British Asian – Gujarati Madhab: Hanafi Occupation: Alhamdulillah, I own and run a couple of businesses Education: Politics & Economics – graduated with a 2:1 Islamic Education: Hafidh Beard: Yes Siblings: 2 brothers and 1 sister Previously Married: No About Me I would describe myself as an easy-going, kind-hearted and respectful person with a good sense of humour. I am hardworking and ambitious, while also placing a strong importance on family and maintaining good relationships with those around me. Alhamdulillah, Islam is a central part of my life. I am a Hafidh of the Qur’an and particularly enjoy reading Islamic literature and learning about Islamic history. I hope to continuously increase my Islamic knowledge and improve myself throughout my life. In my spare time, I enjoy spending time with family, eating out, travelling and experiencing different places and cultures. I also enjoy watching sports, TV series and documentaries.

, 27

New Jersey, United States

🇺🇸 American

An ordinary Muslim whose primary objective is to get to Jannah and whose concern is to serve the Ummah. Please read my profile fully and carefully before you send me a message. Jazakallahu Khayran. * Likes to take long walks outside * Likes to recite Qur'an * Likes to travel * Likes to go to restaurants (foodie) * I don't say much, when i talk, i'm not too talkative * Living a simple life, nothing exciting but not boring either * My father is from Egypt (which i have been there two times), * and my mother is from Morocco (which i haven't visited yet, but plan to inshaAllah). * I want to leave the U.S. and live in another country for the rest of my life, like Saudi Arabia. * Currently living with family and still choose to be in their company as connecting the ties of kinship as of now. I plan to move out of the house after a few years inshaAllah. Still living with family, but I believe after marriage, Allah will open the doors for us. Moving out to a new home is hard right now but this is what I want to do. InshaAllah i will update this section of my profile when major changes in my life happen. I want to spend my future living in Saudi Arabia inshaAllah.

, 38

Greater London, United Kingdom

🇸🇴 Somali

I’m a very practising Muslim brother who is looking to settle down soon Insha Allah. I am a family oriented person and come from a big family, so spending time with them is very important to me. I like to attend Islamic lectures in my spare time to gain more knowledge of the deen.

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Nangarhar, Afghanistan

🇦🇫 Afghan

Some certain things should be made clear from the beginning to potentially save you time and me as well before we match. 1. I live in Afghanistan and financial independence is a big deal by itself for a boy like me. Despite all that, I still see myself able to do the wedding and all the basic things with my father's help, unless the other party wants something expensive. That being said, overall, I am not financially stable for marriage. My philosophy is that getting married early with financial difficulty is better than to marry later without it. 2. I am still a university student, pursuing my undergraduate degree that has to do with coding, programming and all such things. I am currently focusing on web development, which is how to make good looking and well-functioning websites. Moreover, I still have two years left to graduate, but if things do work with someone, and they want to get married earlier than 2 years, I can do something about it. At the end of the day, I feel like choosing a life partner and getting married can be more important than graduating from university. 3. I do have a part time job, which is teaching English, and the money I earn from the job is what I use to support myself every month. That is how I pay for my university as well.

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This is my favourite app by far, and I've tried many.

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I am writing to express the immense relief and serenity I felt after seeing your recent update. The moment I realized that a Wali can now have full access to the chats, it gave me so much hope. It truly shows that positive change can happen, and your team is making it a reality.

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Mari

Alhamdulillah we’re married! I (F7847 ) found a brother (M11820 ) on the Sunnah match app and we got married wa lillahil hamd! We ask Allah to reward you Jannah for making this connection!

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Anisa

me and my husband met on sunnah match and had our nikkah done allahuma barik! Jazak allahu khayr for the service. May Allah continue to bless you all in everything you do in this life and the next ameen.

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Anonymous member

We found someone for our daughter through Sunnah Match Alhamdulillah.

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Anonymous member

Even though I haven’t yet found the right match, I truly appreciate the way you’ve built a platform that allows Muslims to connect for marriage while maintaining the teachings of Islam. Your app has broken barriers and created opportunities for diversity, all while prioritizing security, modesty, and haya—no inappropriate pictures, no explicit communication, and a strong focus on keeping things halal. In today’s world, where so many platforms fall short, your work stands out as a shining example.

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Syed

Around 4–5 years ago, I purchased a lifetime membership and, Alhamdulillah, was able to find my wife through your platform. I have since referred many of my friends to sunnamatch, many of who have also found their spouses on here.

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Anonymous member

Alhumdulilah with the support of your app I have found my future spouse.

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Anonymous member

I would like to sincerely thank you and your entire team. Through your platform, I was blessed with the opportunity to find my life partner. Alhamdulillah. May Allah grant you all a share in the reward for facilitating something so meaningful. I am deeply grateful and genuinely happy.

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Anonymous member

I truly enjoyed using your website—mā shā’ Allāh, the quality of the Muslimah profiles is very high.

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Anonymous member

I attended a wedding in south’s Africa few weeks back and the couple met on sunnah match and this inspired me to try it again .

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Summa

I just wanted to thank you all for creating this app Alhamdulillah I have found a decent brother after almost two years of using it Allah is the best of planners!! we are getting married next month In Sha Allah!

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Vita

I'm thrilled to see the revamped Sunnah Match website, MashaAllah! The new features and facilities are a huge improvement, making it easier for members to navigate.

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Abida

I have used the paid subscription of this app actively for 3 months. I must emphasise I have thoroughly enjoyed using this app and greatly appreciate the thorough thought process, quality and ease of use behind this service.

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Anonymous member

I am very content with this app because I have found my potential spouse to be in shaa Allah Alhamdulillah through this app

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Anonymous member

I read the profiles and I was in tears to see how many people love the deen and are looking for a religious way of life.

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Sohaib

as I'm already married through here alhumdulliah

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Mohammad

Please delete my account as alhamdullilah I actually got married to the sister with the profile number F2584. May Allah bless you all for your efforts in facilitating this marriage. Flew from Canada to make it happen

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Arisha

Alhamdullillah I found the one for me through this app, jazakallahkhair!

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Zakeria

الحمدلله I got married last week to my wife that I found on here!

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Randa

Alhamdulah I have met someone on Sunna match

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Ramla

Alhamdulillah, I'm very grateful to have come across this app, where I can find a suitable spouse without compromising my faith.

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Um Safiyah

I have found a brother on your site alhamdulillaah…

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Asma

alhamdulillah with the help of Allanh I met my spouse. And I would like to thank you guys for helping me find him in halal way.

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Quincy

i want to tell you that i found my spouse at Sunnahmatch. May Allah reward you all for this platform and ease that you all bring among the ummah.

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Isa

I found my wife on this app so I’m no longer in need of this service.

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Hasan

Alhamdullilah. I have found my wife on here.

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Fahad

I just want to say that I became engaged with a sister I met on Sunnah Match here. We are planning our Nikah in March inshaAllah

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Jamuna

Few profiles on here are pretty good Allahuma Barik. For sure better than what I’ve been seeing on other services recently.

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Mia

I'm getting married in February in Sha Allah I meet my fiancé via sunnah match Alhamdulilah

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Isa

Alhamdulillah Allah enabled me to get married through sunnah match. I have been married for around 8 months and going strong Alhamdulillah.

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Shukri

I met Hamid -Abdul wali and within 3months we got married on August 19th,2022, we followed the Islamic Sunnah. Honestly Sunnah Match was a great way of meeting someone who’s serious and ready for marriage, and not playing around . The most important thing for me was the fact that no one has to show their picture to prove a point how beautiful/handsome they looked. I liked how simple details you can share and how the men have to communicate with our Wali. It shows respect, values and commitment an individual have .

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Jamy-Lee

Today I got to a wedding where the sister married with a brother she met via your app Allahouma barek.

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Basma

I have found someone and I don't think that I need my account anymore. We met through your website, Sunnah Match :)

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Fahed

Yes I did and we are doing the Kitab soon. And yes on your platform! ​ Fahed

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Bilal

I would just like to inform that by the grace and mercy of Allah almighty, I was able to find a sister through Sunnah Match alhamdulillah. I found this to be one of the very few platforms available that provides a 100% halal matrimonial service, so I really hoped to find someone through here and alhamdullillah that is now a reality. It was a very long and enduring road for me the past 3+ years alhamdulillah.

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Questions before you join

What is Sunnah Match?

Sunnah Match is a Muslim marriage app for practising Muslims seeking a spouse. It combines detailed profiles, religious preferences and tools for wali involvement, with registration available in the UK, US, Canada and beyond. About the service →

Who is Sunnah Match designed for?

Practising Muslim adults who want to consider religious values, character and marriage expectations together. Members describe their own practice and preferences; joining does not prove anyone’s sincerity or piety. Assessing compatibility →

How does wali involvement work?

You can share your wali’s contact details and invite them to follow your conversations through Active Wali, helping you involve them as you consider a potential spouse. The wali process →

Are profile pictures displayed?

The public showcase has no profile photos. The current app marks photo sharing as coming soon, so do not rely on being able to exchange photos through a conversation. Photo sharing explained →

How does Sunnah Match support religious compatibility?

Profiles let members describe religious practice, orientation, lifestyle and expectations, with options including Sunni and Salafi. Use these as conversation starting points, not proof of someone’s beliefs or conduct. Religious preferences →

Is Sunnah Match available in the UK, US and Canada?

Yes. You can register from the UK, United States and Canada, as well as other countries. Discuss location, travel and relocation expectations with each person. Availability does not guarantee a suitable match in your area. Country guides and availability →

Is Sunnah Match free?

Creating your account and profile is free. When you’re ready to send introductions, choose a monthly membership or one-payment Unlimited access. Free profiles and paid membership →

How much does it cost?

UK web list prices are £24.99 per month or £249 once for Unlimited. Prices and offers can differ by plan, region and purchase channel. Review the final checkout price and the limits shown in your account before paying. Membership and pricing →

How do I protect my privacy?

Avoid putting contact details or sensitive information in your profile text. Review profile visibility and wali-sharing controls separately. Hiding a profile is different from deleting your account. Privacy and safety guidance →

How do I report a suspicious profile?

Use the report option in the app or contact [email protected] with the relevant profile identifier and a concise description. Reporting and blocking are separate actions. Do not send passwords or unnecessary identity documents. Contact support →

How do I get started?

Create your free profile and share what matters to you in a marriage. Give a potential spouse a sense of who you are and the life you hope to build. Create Your Free Profile →

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